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TAKE A STRESS TEST FOR YOUR MARITAL STRAIN

Marriages are quoted to be made in heaven but occasionally they end up in hell. Hundreds of causes are proposed for failure of marriages from broken homes to infidelity. Everybody gets married with a sense of commitment although the reasons may vary from love to money. The trials of marriage usually occur in early stages of matrimony and early recognition may help to prevent a breakdown. As a physician, it is heart-warming to meet couples who have made their progress from silver, ruby to golden anniversary and beyond. The longer they have stayed together stronger is their bondage. The final sad hour of their life is when one spouse departs from the world leaving the other with a sense of emptiness and sorrow.

We have no way of knowing how many marriages would have been saved with correct intervention and support. The following is form of stress test for both the man and the woman to measure the depth of their problem and gauge the prognosis. The test is meant to be guideline only and not infallible.

10 POINTS STRESS TEST FOR MARIETAL STRAIN (WIFE) YES NO
Do you believe that your Husband is concerned about your health and well being +1 -1
Do you believe that your husband prioritises your quality of life above money +1 -1
In case of divorce do you believe that your husband will fight hard  to give you only the minimum benefits -1   +1
Do you think your husband will be very concerned about the effect of divorce on the children, if any +1 -1
Do you believe that your husband may never want to see you again after divorce -1   +1
Is your husband diagnosed to have mental illness or physical addiction to drugs or alcohol -1    +1
Is your husband being negatively influenced by others +1   -1
Has your husband ever left home over differences -1    +1
Does your husband have an ongoing extramarital affair or had one in the past -1   +1
A total score of 0 points denotes that marriage can be saved with intervention and counselling
Each negative score thereafter reduces the chances of the survival of marriage by about 20%
10 POINTS

STRESS TEST FOR MARIETAL STRAIN (HUSBAND)

YES NO
Do you believe that your wife is concerned about your health and well being +1 -1
Do you believe that your wife prioritises your quality of life above money + 1                -1
In case of divorce do you believe that your wife will fight hard for every penny and more -1                +1
Will your wife be very concerned about the effect of divorce on the children, if any + 1                -1
Do you believe that your wife may never want to see you again after divorce -1               + 1
Is your wife diagnosed to have a diagnosed mental illness or physical addiction to drugs or alcohol -1               +1
Is your wife being negatively influenced by others + 1                -1
Has your wife ever left home over differences -1               +1
Does your wife have an extra marital affair ongoing or in the past -1               +1
A total score of 0 points denotes that marriage can be saved with intervention
Each negative score thereafter reduces the chances of the survival of marriage by about 20%

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